August 6, 2013

Unexpected Friendship

Someone just said something to me I never thought I'd hear- in fact, I never could have even dreamed this sentence up if I had tried.  I was talking to one of my best friends about how we met and became friends and she said this:  "When I saw your scars, I knew I could be friends with you."  I immediately burst into tears.  I have always thought of my scars as something that people might be able to someday accept if they got to know me well enough.  I have on rare occasion had fellow self-injurers connect with me because of my scars, but those connections tend to be tenuous and fleeting.  I never in a million years dreamed that my scars could be part of the start of a friendship with someone who had no scars of her own.  So to all of you out there who struggle with something that makes you feel unlovable, I humbly assert that you are WRONG.  Nobody is unlovable.  Nothing can make you unlovable.  You deserve love, and you will find it.


  1. That's a true friend right there. And this is such a good a lot of us need to hear. Thanks for that!

    1. Sorry it's taken me so long to get back to you! I just barely checked my email (it gives me anxiety, so I avoid it like the plague, which compounds my anxiety lol) and got the message that you had commented. I'm really grateful that you let me know this was meaningful. That's the only reason I blog- to try to help other people through the horrible things that we go through. How did you find my blog?


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